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Obituary for Anne E. Benda (Dalquest)

Anne Elizabeth Benda, age 57, passed away on Thursday, March 28, 2024, surrounded by her loving family. She was the beloved partner, best friend, and wife of Thomas Benda with whom she enjoyed 29 years of marriage. She was the loving mother of Maggie, Sarah, and Lizzie.

Anne was born to Leonard and Suzanne (Brawner) Dalquest on January 16, 1967 in Schenectady, NY. For most of her childhood, Anne’s family lived in Marblehead, MA. They eventually moved to Los Gatos, CA, where she attended high school. Anne went on to graduate from The University of California, Santa Barbara, receiving her B.A. in Speech and Hearing Sciences in 1990.

In March of 1991, shortly after moving back to Marblehead, MA, she re-met her husband Tom, whom she lovingly referred to as “her lobster” and “the boy next door.” Growing up, Anne and Tom lived around the corner from each other in Marblehead and were re-introduced years later by a mutual friend at a local bar. A lighthearted March Madness bet led to a first a date and the beginning of their enduring partnership. Anne and Tom were married in Los Gatos, CA on New Year’s Eve, 1994, which many recall years later as not just an amazing wedding, but an epic party. Anne and Tom decided to move back to Massachusetts to start their family, settling in Chelmsford, MA.

Anne was perhaps most proud of her role in raising her three daughters. Anne was the glue of the family. There was a never a problem she couldn’t solve, a car she couldn’t pack, or a hairbrush she couldn’t find. Those who were close to her knew her as the self-proclaimed “FOAT: Finder of All Things.” She wholeheartedly advocated for her daughters to pursue their dreams and to be their authentic selves.

Anne was a vibrant and central member of not only her family, but her community. She had a unique ability to form deep connections and was a ray of light to all who knew her. Anne had a beautiful gift of making everyone feel welcomed and cared for.

Anne enjoyed many things, especially camping, cooking, and family gatherings. One of her fondest memories was the six-week, cross-country camping adventure that she and her close friend took their daughters on in 2009. Anne was the proud dog-mom of Henley and soul puppy Lucca. Places close to her heart were Yosemite, Acadia National Park, Washington, D.C., and The Cotswolds. Anne felt most at home watching the thunderstorms roll through from her front porch and sitting with Tom on the back patio, listening to Chris Stapleton and Jack Johnson.

In addition to her loving husband and three daughters, Anne is survived by her sister Missy, brother Bobby, step-mother Nancy, sister-in-law Christine, mother- and father-in-law Mary and Ivan, and her cherished extended family.

Services will be held privately at a later date.